Are you tired of wondering whether your crush likes you? Is it starting to feel painful daydreaming about a future together, only for nothing to happen? Would you prefer to just know whether this special guy wants to be with you? I understand it can be difficult to ask a man about this, which is why I created the guide below.

A guy’s mind is simply not programmed to perceive things that way but when they really want to remember something, they don’t have any.

You’ve probably heard it before—boys love to complain about how confusing girls can be. But us girls know firsthand that understanding guys can be just as complicated. In hopes of helping girls better understand the guy’s point of view, we surveyed guys about a way-worthy topic: you! What do guys wish you knew? Blunt, but we like blunt. Mikey is in the majority when it comes to flirting. Nearly every guy we talked to says when he texts, he’s really just trying to get you know you better.

A text is just a text, not a confession of love. I hate it because the next day the girl acts like she owns me. Basically, a text or a snap from a guy isn’t some hidden signal to decode. Just be yourself, take it slow and feel out the situation. Sure, a text could lead to something more, but for now, it’s just a text, so there’s no need to stress or DTR right away.